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the Hands of a Dozen Strangers: My Experience at a Compassionate Touch Workshop

The Hands of a Dozen Strangers: My Experience at a Compassionate Touch Workshop
Summary: “Loving, consensual touch can be a deliberate religious practice.” —Christine Hoff Kraemer, Eros and Touch from a Pagan Perspective, pg. 122.
Series: Essay
Word Count: 2700
Notes: Winner of the LiberaPay/Patreon fan poll! A lot of these ideas I originally got from Eros and Touch from a Pagan Perspective, especially chapters 1: “Divided for Love’s Sake: An Erotic Cosmology” and 4: “the Sacrament of Touch.” The author has generously uploaded it to archive.org; check it out!

Unsurprisingly to anyone familiar with my history, I (Rogan of LB) have trouble being physically close to people. So what was I doing going to a compassionate touch workshop in a mysterious half-renovated warehouse with a dozen strangers, most of them men? Well, I wanted a change. I wanted to change.

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website stuff,
work

Where to buy the AllFam Ebook in the meantime

Thank you again to everyone who's contributed to the Banned Book Sale; I didn't expect the response and am deeply grateful. I've sold like a dozen books in a week, which is super-unusual for me. Thank you!

Until I hash things out with itch.io (no response yet), you can buy the AllFam ebook (and the script version) on Payhip. I am slowly uploading all my ebooks there, starting with the stuff most likely to be banned. I have everything copied over now except for the Megapack which is... by far the largest and may take a bit.

EDIT: okay, Megapack should be up now too. Whew.

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Comic: Red Tape Hell, 2015

Wow, y'all really stepped up for the banned book sale. Y'all sure showed me! Much gratitude to all y'all; with fans like you, I am truly blessed.

This was the winner of the fan poll and paid for by supporters at LiberaPay and Patreon! Originally printed in 2015 for the floppy copies of All In the Family #3, they were cut from the final paperback version. Now they live again!

Text-only transcript in the comments below!

( every legally disabled person has a story like this )

Current Music: Tom Lehrer - "Selling Out"

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Perfect Victims (and the guys who made the cash register)

Okay, so to quickly explain what's going on with itch.io (and Fansly, and Steam, and Patreon, and OnlyFans, and and and...)

So, when you buy something from a website, there's you (the customer), the creator of the thing (the maker), and the website you buy it on (the shop). But then there's the payment processor. The payment processor is a middle-man between you and the shopkeeper.

The metaphor I use is: imagine you go to a store and decide to buy a cookie. You go to the shopkeeper to give them your money, and suddenly a guy jumps out of the bushes and tells you, "NO! You are only allowed to buy pure, clean, HEALTHY food with your cash!"

You say, "Who the fuck are you, a cop?"

"No."

"A politician? Are cookies illegal now?"

"No."

"Are you involved with the shop? The cookie makers?"

"No! We made the cash register!"

( further explanation, but I am not a banker nor all that educated about payment processors )

Current Mood: angry
Current Music: Laura Jane Grace - "Active Trauma"

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Fuck it, Banned Book Sale!

Rogan: All in the Family got suspended from itch.io. Apparently according to the new Terms of Service, it's considered child pornography. Yes, my memoir about child sexual abuse. I'm fighting it, but a lot of artists are getting kicked off.

If you've been putting off downloading stuff off itch.io, now is the time to HURRY YOUR ASS UP. They look to be steam-cleaning the site after a scrubsquad of purityfucker Australians squealed at payment processors.

This is the email I got:

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And hey, if you're like, "Wow, LB, that sure sucks that your #1 bestselling book got muzzled because of some purity wankers in Australia, I want to give you money," then thanks, friend! You're the fucking best! You can send me donations through my Paypal button or have fun buying my various wares. If you've been putting off buying my actual porn or sex shit (Multi Orgasmic, Infinity Smashed: Found Wanting, Rutless, and Coming In or Staying Out) now is the time!

In fact, you know what, for the next week, I'm going to be throwing a special offer. If you buy a paper copy of AllFam or any of the sexy things listed above, I will sign it and put a sticker on it. Your options include sparkles, rainbows, happy cute smiling things, and cute little sayings. Donate extra $ to either me or the Boston Sex Workers and Allies Collective, and I'll print you off a trans porn sticker to slap up wherever you want.

LET'S DO THIS.

Current Mood: annoyed

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Ralph Allison and the "trauma before the age of 7" urban legend

Rogan/Mori: So, way back in the tumblr days, I would see this multi urban legend that you could only become multi if you'd been traumatized before the age of... well, the exact age would change depending on legend iteration, apparently nine was the magic number I saw in 2011, but I feel like seven was another. I could not for the life of me figure out where this stupid idea CAME from, and it drove me crazy!

Well, surprise, but while digging around doing etymological research (i.e., digging in Ralph Allison's published papers), I might've found a source of the urban legend: Allison's "Critical Issues: MPD & DID Should Be Used For Two Separate Groups of Dissociators" CANDID (California News of Dissociation and Identity Disorder), 3(3):4, 1995. (And apparently I even knew about this back in 2011 when I first blogged about this stupid urban legend, but I didn't dig deeper or put two and two together.) This paper is worth discussing, just because... well, it's crackpot as hell, and a nice example of why you shouldn't believe everything a therapist tells you, no matter how famous or (once) well-respected they are (or were).

( This started as us reading a stupid paper about this guy's cracked ideas, only for us to get sucked into pointing at it as a stellar example of why therapists should not be treated like gods. )

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Cripping Interior Design

Mori: you know how some people got really into sourdough or birding because of COVID? Well, Biff got really into interior design.

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